Lack of time...?

I was having this conversation with a friend of mine. We talked about everything possible in the world from politics, economy in recession, terrorism to work, life and career. And then all of a sudden, he popped up with a simple question..."How do you get time in this busy life for blogging? You almost manage it three times a month." I didn't find his question odd. I knew it if I had elaborately explained, the conversation would have lasted forever. I just smiled and said" Bas aise hi...I don't feel lack of time to do it"...

If you see people, world and lives around you, you will see everybody running here and there in search of something or to achieve something..don't know what. Life has become really busy in this age. My grand-ma used to tell me" Your generation is just in love with running after things and pleasures and for that you will willingly lose the pleasure of your present moment. In our time, people at least used to have time to sit along with family and friends." I agree with her nothing less. Life is getting convulsed violently by day to day competitions and in the fight of survival of the fittest. I do the same and still here I am writing a blog on it to preach lessons. But it is not only a lesson...it is just some pieces hold together from small real lives' experiences.

Till I got here in US, I had the same resentments. I used to lament like hell for less time and much work to do. My life was in all time imbalanced state and I thought only I, in the world, has infinite amount of work. I never thought about how to balance life giving importance to each and every need, priority and person. My life was piled up under my textbooks and study room. At times, I would gaze outside the window having a book in hand which gave an impression of my studious nature to many, even though I may be feeling sluggish that moment. But a foolish likeness of myself with always a book in my hand found it hard to let me step outside my door....

My day to day dialogues with ma were limited to "bhookh lagi hai, khana ban gaya kya?", "exams aane waale hai" and " kal school ki chutti hai". Papa was more of a teacher than papa and he was the one who has managed talking with me the most so far. A lot of credit goes to his long discussions of studies with me. My endless commitments to studies and other useless stuff took away my time of conversing with my family and other friends. I was same till college, always complaining about the lack of time. During the second year at college, I came across to talk to a friend about it and after listening to me he said" There is never a lack of time...only a lack of inclination. There is always plenty of time if you know how you are going to balance your life." His words moved me to the core. I have been repeating his words in my mind till date. And after that, if there is anything missing in my life...that is inclination, that is balance...never a lack of time.

We run our whole life in hope of a better future and miss all zest of relishing present moments OR we stay cold our whole life to avoid odds and rigor of present moments and get apprehensive for tomorrow. We run either at left or at right, unknowingly that the real joy lies in between somewhere these two points. Life is not about zooming in a Ferrari and it is not about stopping on one moment for ever either. Happiness is not in the mirages of " the next day should be better than today" and it is not also in fretting over an ongoing painful moment. It is just in the moment when you know what you want to do the most and what makes you happy.

Due to my so called and defined "lack of time", I had stopped blogging for an year when I came here for masters. A friend pushed me again towards it and then I realized where my zeal lies. I found an undefined solace in giving a shape to my thoughts again and my inclination took care of it from there. It was though not as actively as it was supposed to be and at times I hardly thought of anything but studies, yet I knew it was important to me and for my happiness. And this realization of where my true self lies taught me how to get the balance between the two.

Practically, it may invite a number of arguments. This competitive world snatches everything away which gives us delight. But it is on us how to have the counterpoise. Life is too beautiful na, friends. Enjoy every moment before it flees away and make it meaningful also before it never gives you a chance to do so again. Make a balance with everything in your life. Try it from today before you lose any special moment and person forever.

I wish I could get my childhood back just to spend some more tender moments with my family which I just let go hands down...the significance of those moments really took much time to become evident to me. We human beings are not so good with extremes. Staying at equilibrium can help us in surviving in a better way and happily for long...